From A Heart To Another
When I want to complain, I have to be mindful. Complaining is an emotion signalling that I am unable to comprehend another's acts. It is a lack of empathy on my part. It is me jumping into conclusion. Without full realization, it is the ego that says 'Hey, I am the good one.'
When I am full of annoyance about something, I must step up. Not doing anything will not improve the situation. It is useless, and a wasted energy, to continue to express dissatisfaction and insisting not to let things go. Complaining, definitely, is not going to harmonize any situations.
Obviously I am affected when I am complaining. What I am dismissing here, there are deep issues that I have not completely resolved within me. It is always very easy to shift the blame elsewhere. When I shift it, my ego does not get hurt. This is the hard truth.
Instead of complaining, I have four alternatives.
First: I can stand up and I can voice up. I can share what I think, though it may not be the right thing. Sharing is caring. As Steve Jobs once said 'Life is about creating and living experiences that are worth sharing'.
Second: I can walk away. Walking away does not mean a sign of disrespect. The situation has nothing to do with me and I just happen to pass by. Socrates says 'The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing'.
Third: I can start to reflect. All that happen outside me is a reflection of what is within me. Every single person is reflecting parts of my consciousness back to me. He/She is allowing me to see myself, to grow and to change my beliefs.
As Rumi says 'The truth was a mirror in the hands of God. It fell, and broke into pieces. Everybody took a piece of it, and they looked at it and thought they had the truth'.
Fourth: From a heart to another, I can choose to listen without reacting, without judging, without trying to fix or without ruminate over it. Love embraces all.
I love you. I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.