The Blessed Life

It is the duality of life.  Duality teaches me that every aspect of life is created from a balanced interaction of opposite and competing forces.  Yet, these forces are not just opposites.  They are, indeed, complementing each other.   I cannot win and win again and again endlessly.  I will not fail and fail again and again forever too.  All is fair in life.  There is a great and greater purpose to it.  The hashtag to all winnings, and otherwise, lies with the role my heart exhibits. To grasp acceptance in life is important.  Whenever I fail, I should be thankful.  What I should avoid, when I fail, is the feeling of defeat.  I should not give up.  I must not swear and curse.  Failure is about picking myself up.  It is to learn new lessons, to acquire and to realize that I have not given my utmost best. Whenever I win, I should be grateful.  At the same time, I should be humble about it.  There are more lessons to learn here.  Will my win make me arrogant?  Will I forget about humility?

Doing the right thing for myself paves for an enjoyable beautiful ways to live my life.  I have to list the right thing.  It has to be by me, for me and to me.  It has to make me feel good.  It has to inspire me to become better individual. What is the right thing?  I must not think selfishly.  It has to be socially right and acceptable too.  I have to do good and be good.  Doing good and being good make a journey in life wonderful. I have to cultivate self care, taking care of all facets of my life.  It includes money, relationship with my loved ones and, most importantly, my relationship with myself.  Self care is about giving my mind and my soul a sense of peace.  That brings abundance of happiness, joy and good health. Doing the right thing is important.  Choosing to do the right thing is about who I want to be.  Underneath my name, my career and my home, who am I really?  What do I stand for?  What matters to me?  Who do I want to surround myself with?  What can I contribute to ot

Words used to express intentions mean nothing when they are not from the heart.  Words alone do not mean much.  It takes more than just words after words after words.  It is how they are said that means everything. Words are to be articulated and connected from love in the heart.  The tone of my voice, to carry out those words, plays an important role too.  It matters as it creates harmony.  My tone clarifies and conveys meaning.  My tone affects how others perceive me.  Also, it measures on their willingness to listen. I have to constantly remind myself to hear and listen on the way I speak.  I should not cheapen my words to cheapen my talk.  There is no necessity for me to be heard when I have nothing good to say.  It is not important that I must fill in any awkward silences.  It is not necessary, nor it is funny, to make others laugh all the time. The words 'Listen' and 'Silent' are both spelt with the same letters.  The more that I talk less, the more I learn.  Sile

Today, as I am saying goodbye to another year, I should spend a little time to do a reflection.  Doing so, I am giving respect for the past.  Only when I know where I've come from that I will know where I am going next.   Hopefully, my reflection can help me to see how everything is connected.  It is to be hoped that it gives me a sense of accountability and purpose.  Trustingly, I will get to understand myself much better. My mind needs to know the importance why I have to reflect.  While it might get me nowhere, it shall be of great significance to give some thoughts on the next stage of my life.  It might not be about finding happiness, it can be about enjoying all that I have. Similarly, it is about gratitude, that I can cherish all the things that took place.  When I can acknowledge every happenings with love, surely there will be time for gladdening my heart for all the experiences. For this reflection, I will ask myself these questions.  It is to add and find the sum total o

Whenever there is a nudge to do something good, I should just do it.  I should follow the intuition.  It is the Higher Self prompting me.  It is my Inner Child prodding gently.  It is the angel saying, 'Hey, I am here'.  This is how the Universe works; that unspoken messages are being trusted subtly to influence behaviours and decision makings. When I follow these nudges, there are high chances that good habits are developed.  That, I shall rid any inertia and procrastination.  That, I nurture spontaneous acts to become proactive in life.   Being spontaneous is a good trait to have in life.  It opens any uninhibited manners and builds courage and growth. Nudge is the language of the Universe within me.  It aids me to get closer to hearing my inner voice.  It is designed to initiate and to shape events.  It is a divine energy within that is bursting with information to make things right.  It is the divine flame supporting the mind-body towards achieving for something good. Nudge

Every time I see good loving relationships, and those that have been together for decades, I thank God that I can witness them.  They remind me of my parents, and everyone else that I know, about being together.  How those decades of them together, in loving relationship, survive so well till death separates them. It is always a lovely feeling to see long lasting relationships.  I admire their commitments to make things work.  I adore their patience.  I stand in awe at their coping mechanisms.  I respect their willingness to take the time to understand conviction.  I crave for meaning and their harmony. Relationship takes hard work.  It takes two willing individuals striving for the ultimate.  Even if the couples are soulmates, made in heaven, relationship is about two people with different background coming together.   Certainly not an easy task as there will always be differences.  Yet, when a relationship that lasts for decades, till death do them part, speaks volume. It shows the i

My words and my actions need to sync.  They have to have consciousness.  Words and actions are powerful to shape integrity, identity and intention.  When I can keep and honour my words, I shall become the person that my soul can be proud.   My soul needs to feel worthy to guard and protect me. When I say something, others expect me to do it.  So is my Inner Child.  So is my guardian angel.  It is only right that I honour my words.  It is a measurement of my own worth.  It is my commitment that I have to hold and keep.  When I don't, I destroy my own values.   Else, I lose my connection with all these individuals.  Worse, I will develop a reputation for not following through on commitments and be not trustworthy.  When that happens, I am letting everyone down.  Importantly, I distance myself with my soul and the divinity within me. When I say 'Oh, I will call you later', will I do it or conveniently forget about it?  When I say 'I will be there when you need me', do

I may spend hours doing mindful meditation and, still, will not find peace within.  I may spend time with nature, yet the uneasy feeling within me would still be there.  I may engage fun activities but its happiness only lasts as long as my tired body. Peace is one of the most important human experiences.  When I do not have peace within, I will not be able to appreciate whatever else I have.  Sadly, I may not even be able to recognize the good in my life because I have not recognized the good in myself. I need to activate the peace of 'I', which is always within me.  I have to have a strong mindset and that I understand myself at the deepest level.  I have to be a student of my soul and a student of life in general. My inner conflict is the biggest barrier.  It stops me from achieving the inner peace.  I have to resolve any conflicts within me.  Blaming on any external things, outside of my life, will not help me to resolve my inner conflicts. At the end of the day, when I am

Life is easy.  It is rich in simplicity.  Breathe in, breathe out and take everything else light and simple.  To live an easy life, I must not become the product of my environment.  When life is tagged heavily with economic and social values, I may end up with a victim mentality.  These values control and influence my ways of life, subtly and unknowingly. Yes, I am a choice maker and life is a choice.  I have to decide how I want my life to be.  Do I want to think that life is easy or do I believe it is difficult and hard.  Whatever the choice I make, life is not what happens but what meaning that I give to it.   Any experience I have is not by itself negative nor positive.  It is the meaning that I attach to that experience which gives its positive or negative connotation.  I can perceive it as hard and complain all day.  Or, I could look from a different perspective and realize that the situation helped me become a better human. To make my life different, I have to become a present t

I had personal mantras written many years back.  They were written to inspire me forward.  It was my way to let the energies from those mantras to become one with me.  I wanted them to grow with me, in me.  I envisioned on a life that I wanted to live for. Writing a mantra is equivalent to writing a motto.  It holds intrinsic meaning to guide one's belief and principle.  The words, the statements are representative of a person's ideals and values.  When writing them with deep intent, they manifest with time.  Surely. For all mantras / mottos to work, they have to start with the authentic genuine longing.  They have to come from the soul.  They have to mean something for something big.  They have to touch the mind and the mind has to believe.  When the soul and the mind are aligned as one, the universe will conspire. Repetition is the mother of learning.  These mantras need constant internalization.  To become successful with one's mantra or motto, it requires effort and ene