The Blessed Life

With love to Marie Kondo, a Japanese organizing consultant, I learn the term 'Spark Joy'.  It teaches me on the importance to keep things that only sparks joy.  The idea of sparking joy is to live with the tidied important things, minus all the junks and clutters.   The effect from these organized and sorted main essential items will let me to experience true joy. Holding on to too many unimportant things will not make life easy.  It makes me stuck and inflexible.  I will end up with an attitude of not willing to change nor compromise.  A cluttered mind, a cluttered personal space will not let me breathe peace.  It will not give me emotional and mental clarity. When I de-clutter my mind together with my personal space, it will be easier for me to let things go.  There is definitely freedom in a vacuum.  De-cluttering allows me to create more space for good things to fill in.   The act is a reset button to start things all over again on a clean slate.  It is also about change wi

There have to be meanings for everything.  They are the main ingredients to make lives meaningful.  Having a sense of meaning brings fulfillment with purpose.  They make lives useful.  And, to make my life to be useful, I have to love my purpose.  I have to love all the best possible meanings for all my thoughts and actions. Because I love my parents, for example, I will do whatever to make us happy a lifetime.  Because I love God, I ask Him to provide peace in my life.  Because I love life and I wish to find the how to make me happy.  Because I love you and I must live to be good at loving you. There is nothing in the world I would not do because of love.  In the endless pursuit of happiness, happiness should not be the goal.  By itself, happiness does not give a full meaning to life.  It is merely a by-product of being useful. What really makes me happy is when I can be useful, when I am useful.  When I can create something to bring meaning to myself and the world.  When I create use

The pandemic has made travel rather impossible.  Even when it is possible, there are now strict restrictions.  There are pandemic control regulations every where in the world.  Serving the Stay Home Notice is a must and quarantine violations carry heavy penalty. This current situation is a good call for me to travel within.  It is about coming home, a journey within, to my soul and tame my mind.  It is taking the opportunity to give attention to what is within me. Taking a trip on the journey within makes me to gain knowledge and understanding of who I am and what makes me me.  When I get to know myself better, I get to know who I truly am and what I can achieve.  I have to find time to take on this journey. Lao Tzu, the Chinese philosopher, says 'One who knows others becomes wise, but one who knows himself becomes enlightened'.  The journey within will make me to understand my own nature.   It is about getting in touch with what I already am.  As I sit and contemplate on this

Thank you for this meaningful quote, Ms Lily Amis (An author) - 'You go nowhere in this world if you think you are better than everyone else.  Always stay humble, child, regardless of what you achieve in your life'. A downfall in life is when I dismiss not to be humble.  When I disregard humility.  Worse, when I am full of pompous attitude and not grounded.   I have to remember where I come from.  I have to remember my roots and all the struggles I go through.  I come from nothing and while I may think that I have succeeded, success is always temporary.   There will always be many hills to climb on my journey in life, in all ways of living.  I am not more important than many others.  Every human is equally valuable, with success or otherwise.  I am not always right and that I do not have all the answers. As a human, I have this primal instinct wanting for approval and seeking acceptance from others.  It is done whether I am consciously aware of doing so or not.  This type of ap

When I take charge to care for my well being, I have to take conscious effort to be kind to myself.  I should know the extent of my boundaries and limits.  I must not make the stress of life any worse than it already is.  While limiting myself can affect productivity and I will not get to know how far I can go, I need to find a balance. A big part of self care is to learn how to cope with difficult situations.  It is important that I draw the line between myself and what are peoples' expectations of me.  I have to be aware of my strengths and my weaknesses.  It is wise that I know how much I am capable to cope and the distance I can handle. When I do not know my boundaries and limits, I will not be doing justice to my body and mind.  I have to define what exactly is too far or too much for me in order to know how much I can achieve.  Without knowing it, it may negatively impact my health. Nonetheless, I should not limit myself forever.  There is no boundary and no limit when I thin

Should I want to empower myself, and be a good human, I must learn not to give any excuses.  I should avoid using excuses for my anger, my disappointment, my frustrations and why I am not getting what I am looking for.  There is no 'outside' reason why things fail other than my own doing. All things start from within me.  I am the captain of my life, steering at the wheel.  When I do not take full responsibility and keep pointing fingers at others, or giving more and more excuses, I am not pleasing my soul.  To make excuses for my difficulties or failures reflects badly on my well BEing. Yesterday, when I was in the queue to get inside a supermarket, a lady had problem with her #TraceTogether token.  It resulted the queue to get longer.  It made some people frustrated, including me.  More than five minutes gone by and she was told by the Safe Entry Ambassador that the battery of her token had gone flat.  She looked at the queue and apologized. Should she have known better, she

Besides taking care of myself, it will be of great significance I take charge of my life too.  I have to take care of my well being so I can function.  And, the idea to take charge of my life forces me to assume responsibility for my well being.  It is where I am taking control for every aspects of my life. When I take charge, I live my life the way I want it to be.  It shall be right by me and for me where I am comfortable in my own skin.  I do not become what others want me to be but to live by the aspirations of my soul.  I will be the captain of my destiny where I manage my priorities in a mindful manner. It is important for me to take charge of my own life.  My safety, my happiness, my joy and all my success rely on me alone.  It is my sole responsibility to fulfill what I am supposed to be.   Others can lend their hands but when I do not have the confident and the courage, nothing is achievable.  Confidence puts me through challenges.  Courage gets me out of my comfort zone. When

All throughout my life, I have been told to be good and to do good.  My loving parents often reminded me to do that when I was growing up.  So were my elders, my teachers, my friends and almost everyone in my social groups.  Be good, do good is what I should be doing, no questions asked. When I am good with life, life will be good to me in return.  It is the law of cause and effect.  The more I engage with meaningful life, it will provide me with a happy and fulfilling life.  Purposeful life requires me to be patience, to be kind, to be loving and to think wisely for the long term. Be good, do good is a life with purpose so that I can feel good.  It is a life where I make the most of everything in any kinds of situation.  I have to know I can never please all men.  But, when I can be a blessing even to one human being, it shall be good enough. Every day grants me opportunities to do good.  God helps me when I help others.  I have to take advantage of the situation.  I have to immerse m

Anger and hurt are two different things.  I can be angry but not hurt.  Likewise, I am hurt, yet I am not angry.  While both emotions cause degrees of distress, they breed resentment.  It is the hurt feeling that gives rise to anger. I am no saint.  Anger and hurt are what I have created. I have hurt people and make them angry too.  I am not perfect and I make many mistakes.  I say stupid things.  I annoy people and piss them off.   All these bad habits have made me to hurt others.  Often I am too arrogant, I have too much ego.  I need to properly see myself so that I see what bad things I have done, not only for myself but others too.  It is a painful sight to see anyone who gets hurt and be angry thereafter.   I have to learn not to cross the boundary to cause more pain.  I have to be mindful of my thoughts.  I should have been more sensitive and thoughtful.  I should be more human.  I should not put myself below the level of awareness. While getting hurt could be the result from bei

Every moment of my life is without limit.  And so is the Universe with her endless bountiful.  I can ask her for anything and I just need to know how.  All I need is to put forth a clear enough request and everything my heart desires shall come to me.  I must not let my mind to trick me to limit things in life. It is said those who have less have asked for less.  And, those who have more have asked for more.  The Universe works with the law of attractions and vibrations that is linked with my unconscious mind.  The unconscious mind is where imagination lives.  It is where manifestation takes place. Asking for something from the Universe can happen.  It starts with a believe and, importantly, a want and a why.  In order for the Universe to provide for me, I need to know what I want and why I want it.  There has to be a degree, or sense, of certainty on what I actually want. At the same time, I need to let go any feelings of desperation.  After I have asked, I have to let go.  I have to